…..and I’m not going to.
Not in full at least.
Many black women, more eloquent than I have written about it and have shared feelings and ideas that mirror my own. I barely discussed Trayvon here, and I’m not going to get deep into Mike Brown either.
I was asked a question from my Ask Me Anything post that stopped me in my tracks though….and is now “forcing” me to write about Mike Brown’s murder (that’s what it was, shut up) even if tangentially.
Here’s the question:
What’s your opinion on this whole Mike Brown situation? Do you find yourself on a fence being that your husband is white and your children are biracial?
(Is the second part of this question absurd to you too, or is it just me?) My very first thought was full of snark, but I’ll spare you that and just say No.
No, I do not find myself “on a fence” about Mike Brown’s murder because my husband is white and our children are biracial, and I am unsure how those two things are related. Being inter-racially married doesn’t negate my blackness or my humanity. Further I’m unsure of what you mean about being “on a fence” with this issue. What possible fence could an educated, non-racist, open and aware person be on with regard to this child’s death?
As for the first part of the question….the “Mike Brown situation” gives me a lot of hope. Now, real talk…., that hope is buried deep under a heap of rage and disgust…but it’s there. And for my own mental and emotional health, that’s the part I have to choose to focus on.
Our sons (and daughters) are under attack from various angles (ex: segregation, media brainwashing/brain-numbing, unequal education, unfair sentencing etc…), and it makes the world a scarier place. I don’t want to get into this here. I don’t want to discuss the systematic racism, the reinforcing of black lives being less valuable than white lives, and the anger and powerlessness my people are feeling and have been feeling, the hard conversations I’m going to have to have with my children so they don’t get used for target practice too, the disgust and annoyance with white “friends” (read: ex friends) who just don’t “get” that this issue is about race and that racism is alive and well (and consistently reinforced) because “I mean like, we have a Black president.” I don’t want to talk about this shit here!
……… as I’m writing this, Rohan is sitting on the floor building and watching Daniel Tiger. A song just came on “close your eyes, and think of something happy”……. LOL perfect Timing!
OK… lemme get back to the hope.
Now… I generally have little faith in the american public. I mean…we will get all up in arms on an issue for 5 minutes, and then Beyonce will make a song (or Robin Williams will die) and attention will shift back to things that don’t matter.
But something about this case is stirring people up differently. Maybe it’s the frequency…we had Trayvon…that died down, we had a few rumblings with other cases that didn’t get much attention… but very recently we had Eric Garner and not shortly after Mike Brown… maybe because the recency effect of these senseless (and you can’t tell me it’s not racially motivated) crimes against unarmed black men is getting higher, we’re getting angrier.
There’s not been time for the anger to simmer down. And that’s a good thing. Now, I’m not a fan of looting and burning shit down, but I am a fan of letting your rage out in a way that makes people pay some fucking attention. And it’s about time some attention is paid to this, and not by the same black and brown faces that have been paying attention before.
I have hope that this child’s murder will not be in vain. He has sparked more people to discuss racism, police abuse, and even more people to silently think about, read about if they’re too scared or ill-informed to discuss it. For that I am grateful, and hopeful.
More people are paying attention. And more will. I’m hopeful that more white moms and dads educate themselves and talk to their children about racism, and not just the “slavery and Dr. King” talks that mean absolutely nothing to a white child in 2014. I’m hopeful that more white folks will realize the subtle (not so subtle) racism that pervades everything in this damn country, openly discuss (versus deny) their white privilege and work to make this country a safe and fair place for everyone to live.
I’m hopeful that black and brown boys will continue to do what they need to to keep safe….well, as safe as possible, cuz stopping, putting your hands up, and being unarmed will still get you shot twice in the head…but…you catch my drift. I’m hopeful that parents of black children continue to educate them on what it means to be black in america right now and going forward. I am hopeful that those same parents choose to instill values into those black and brown children versus allowing the media to do so.
I’m just hopeful. It’s an awful circumstance, to spur what has been spurred in America right now…but I feel like we’re turning a corner, and some good stuff lies ahead.
I didn’t spell check/grammar check this, and I’m not gunna re-read this, so if I did any their/there/they’re mistakes, just forgive me and move on.
Back to the lighthearted shit tomorrow. My soul can’t take blogging about this stuff here.