Shark Attack!
So, piggybacking on last week’s post, today I’m going to quickly (I hope) answer some of the questions I receive about raising Roey
- Is it hard raising a biracial son?
- Have you gotten any comments about your son?
- How do you define Rohan’s race?
Is it hard raising a biracial son?
Not yet! I know in the future we’re going to have some hard talks. We’ll have to have the same type of serious race-related convos as someone raising a black son, but with an added twist. I have some fears about it actually because I always hear about biracial kids and identity issues, so I want to be sure to make sure he’s got a solid grip on all aspects of who he is.
Have you gotten any comments about your son?
Nothing bad! (Yet) Usually I get compliments on him cuz…. i mean…come on….
hehehe, but I get the “is his daddy white” question often. I haven’t gotten any rude comments, or anyone assuming I’m the nanny…. yet. But from what I read online that’s something that happens to women often. I honestly doubt anyone would think I’m his nanny, but maybe I’m just naive? I guess we’ll see what the future holds.
I think we get looked at a lot more than spoken to. I feel like before having Roey John and I got stares (I told you about that kinda stuff HERE) that could be taken in different ways, but now, when we’re out with the baby, people look at us with “Awwwww” type faces.
How do you define Rohan’s race?
Rohan’s biracial.
Not a swirl baby, and certainly not a mulatto, and if you call him a half breed…. *shudder*….someone come bail me out.
For those of you who are biracial or in interracial relationships what as your experience been?
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Do you have a preference of who you would prefer he doesn’t marry when he is older?
I am full black African my mother didn’t have issues with me dating white guys but she was HELL NO to Asians
on another note: what natural oil will you recommend to tighten skin and reduce stretch marks after child birth?
Yes, I definitely have a preference who he marries when he’s older. He better marry someone very smart, honest, well adjusted, kind, thoughtful, loving, preferably gorgeous, preferably funny, successful, spiritual and who will be an excellent mother to my grandkids.
As for oil…giiiiirl…I dunno maaaan. I have been smearing bio oil on these stretch marks for the past two months….no change to be seen in my eyes, but I’m sticking with it…mainly because it feels good and smells good LOL.
try pure vitamin e oil………..its great for scars and skin tighten
He is too cute!!!! Maybe it’s just me but aren’t these some serious questions for a little one!?!?
Well I’m surprised, but I did ask for questions so I really can’t be surprised with what I’m hit with. (and Thanks!)
People are really asking you questions wow we are all one color should not matter. People are doing way too much this is not the 60’s smh
I think it’s just still so…not the norm…for so many people. Which is partly why I’m happy to continue doing this series and answering these random questions.
We mostly just get the awwww look. Everytime I got out with Chris women of all races just flock to his killer smile with the dimples. No rude or crazy comments or questions…..yet
This has not been my experience at all. I find this to be weird because we are from the general same area. Who on earth would ask you ‘how do you define his race’? I grew up in the most diverse county in the state so maybe my views are skewed. The only comments I get that are kind of annoying is when people say “She’s so beautiful!” I guess his curls throw people off? Even now that we’ve moved to an almost non existent in diversity community we still don’t get some of the things you’ve talked about… or maybe I’m oblivious.
LMAO this is from emails I’ve gotten since opening myself up for questions on the whole interracial marriage topic. These aren’t random people on the street stopping me to ask “excuse me ma’am, how would you define his race?” LMAO I can’t even imagine that happening anywhere.
Your son is soooo cute! You’re lucky you haven’t experienced the negative comments yet, because that hasn’t been my experience at all! I’m Haitian and my husband is Polish and we have two little girls. We live in the most cosmopolitan city in the world aka Toronto, yet people ALWAYS ask if I’m the nanny/ babysitter. I kid you not it happens every, single, time I’m out with them. 🙁 I wish people would just stop looking at colour. It ain’t that serious!
My boyfriend is white/ el salvadorian and I’m mostly black. We always get stares… I’d love to believe it is because we are so unbearably happy that it shows but considering we’ve heard people mumbling under their breath I’m sure I’m incorrect. The nice thing is people always say we would have pretty babies=) so when the time comes I hope I don’t get any crazy comments because like you I’d be asking for bail!
I’ve been sitting here reading as much as I can on your blog, and I have to say I really enjoy it. Thanks for sharing your family, so wonderful.
I just recently found your blog, and I think it’s awesome that you’re willing to answer questions like this. I’m biracial (mom-black; dad-white), and I don’t know that I’d be willing to answer some of these questions, myself; just because they strike me as ignorant. haha But how will people understand if they can’t ask?
Also, I just wanted to say, as a biracial person, I’ve never had an identity crisis. If you treat your kids like responsible human beings, they’ll have self-respect and won’t find a reason to question their identity. In my house we never focused on race; ever. It just isn’t that important. We’re all humans, no reason to point out differences we have no control over. At least that was my experience. 🙂