Shark Attack!
So, piggybacking on last week’s post, today I’m going to quickly (I hope) answer some of the questions I receive about raising Roey
- Is it hard raising a biracial son?
- Have you gotten any comments about your son?
- How do you define Rohan’s race?
Is it hard raising a biracial son?
Not yet! I know in the future we’re going to have some hard talks. We’ll have to have the same type of serious race-related convos as someone raising a black son, but with an added twist. I have some fears about it actually because I always hear about biracial kids and identity issues, so I want to be sure to make sure he’s got a solid grip on all aspects of who he is.
Have you gotten any comments about your son?
Nothing bad! (Yet) Usually I get compliments on him cuz…. i mean…come on….
hehehe, but I get the “is his daddy white” question often. I haven’t gotten any rude comments, or anyone assuming I’m the nanny…. yet. But from what I read online that’s something that happens to women often. I honestly doubt anyone would think I’m his nanny, but maybe I’m just naive? I guess we’ll see what the future holds.
I think we get looked at a lot more than spoken to. I feel like before having Roey John and I got stares (I told you about that kinda stuff HERE) that could be taken in different ways, but now, when we’re out with the baby, people look at us with “Awwwww” type faces.
How do you define Rohan’s race?
Rohan’s biracial.
Not a swirl baby, and certainly not a mulatto, and if you call him a half breed…. *shudder*….someone come bail me out.
For those of you who are biracial or in interracial relationships what as your experience been?
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Carlee
Wednesday 13th of November 2013
I just recently found your blog, and I think it's awesome that you're willing to answer questions like this. I'm biracial (mom-black; dad-white), and I don't know that I'd be willing to answer some of these questions, myself; just because they strike me as ignorant. haha But how will people understand if they can't ask?
Also, I just wanted to say, as a biracial person, I've never had an identity crisis. If you treat your kids like responsible human beings, they'll have self-respect and won't find a reason to question their identity. In my house we never focused on race; ever. It just isn't that important. We're all humans, no reason to point out differences we have no control over. At least that was my experience. :)
ladynefertiti bk
Friday 28th of June 2013
I've been sitting here reading as much as I can on your blog, and I have to say I really enjoy it. Thanks for sharing your family, so wonderful.
AMW
Friday 17th of May 2013
My boyfriend is white/ el salvadorian and I'm mostly black. We always get stares... I'd love to believe it is because we are so unbearably happy that it shows but considering we've heard people mumbling under their breath I'm sure I'm incorrect. The nice thing is people always say we would have pretty babies=) so when the time comes I hope I don't get any crazy comments because like you I'd be asking for bail!
Jennifer
Sunday 28th of April 2013
Your son is soooo cute! You're lucky you haven't experienced the negative comments yet, because that hasn't been my experience at all! I'm Haitian and my husband is Polish and we have two little girls. We live in the most cosmopolitan city in the world aka Toronto, yet people ALWAYS ask if I'm the nanny/ babysitter. I kid you not it happens every, single, time I'm out with them. :( I wish people would just stop looking at colour. It ain't that serious!
The Mrs./ The Mom
Thursday 28th of March 2013
This has not been my experience at all. I find this to be weird because we are from the general same area. Who on earth would ask you 'how do you define his race'? I grew up in the most diverse county in the state so maybe my views are skewed. The only comments I get that are kind of annoying is when people say "She's so beautiful!" I guess his curls throw people off? Even now that we've moved to an almost non existent in diversity community we still don't get some of the things you've talked about... or maybe I'm oblivious.
Dani
Thursday 28th of March 2013
LMAO this is from emails I've gotten since opening myself up for questions on the whole interracial marriage topic. These aren't random people on the street stopping me to ask "excuse me ma'am, how would you define his race?" LMAO I can't even imagine that happening anywhere.