Aunt Shirley

My post for the BLM Girls Go Pink Blog Hop isn’t going to be educational. I’m going to assume that you, my savvy bloggie friends, check your boobies on the regular and head to the doctor if you feel something not quite right. I’m going to assume that you’re taking the best care of you, and, if you’re of a certain age, or have certain risk factors, you’re going to get your boobies squished as you should.

This post is in honor of my Aunt Shirley. She fought long and hard with breast cancer, and eventually lost the battle several years ago. I’ve had many family members pass away, but this loss was the most profound for me because of how much I loved, connected with, and admired my aunt.

She was what I’d now call a “bad bitch.” Though as a kid I just thought she was the coolest. She was so tall and stylish and walked with her head high, you know how some really tall women scrunch themselves up and don’t wear heels? Not her! She’d be towering over dudes and intimidating those mo fos! She had a million wigs for any occasion (like my girl Wendy Williams lol) and would take me out and spoil the hell outta me and my cousins since she had no kids of her own. She introduced me to so much and really opened my young mind up in ways that I didn’t realize until later in life. She fostered my adventurousness and independence…and perhaps a little of my dont give a shitness. Losing her was really hard. And even though it’s been several years, thinking of her now makes the pain seem so fresh. Ugh!

But losing her opened my eyes to what a sonofabitch breast cancer really is. It’s now the only cause I’ll really give my money or time…or hair…to. (Sidebar: One year when I was like 19 I tried raising money for the 3day walk in NYC…I didn’t make enough money and had none to put in to reach the amount so I couldn’t walk LOL…#pathetic)

Most of the aunts on my dad’s side of the family have had a brush with the big C and because of this I’m extra diligent (maybe overly so, if you ask John) about checking my breasts for anything that feels fishy. I try to take care of myself and live a healthy life, and I know that I’ll have to start mammograms earlier than the recommended age for most women due to my family’s history.

Take care of yourselves ladies!! Breast Cancer is no joke, but every day we’re closer to whoopin’ it’s butt for good!

www.nationalbreastcancer.org

ww5.komen.org/

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

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Mind Right Monday Linkup!

Hi lovely ladies! It’s Mind Right Monday!!

Link up with us and share what your goals are for the week and what you’re grateful for today! PLEASE BE SURE to either use the Mind Right Monday image above, or at the very least put the OKDani.com link in your post on your blog. Let’s keep the linky alive 🙂

My goals this week are to:

  • get videos done
  • write daily
  • finally do the *bleepin* clothes
  • switch winter/summer clothes
  • celebrate our anniversary
  • do a 4 month photoshoot of the Sharkster
  • do biz work every night after Sharkie is down

I am extremely grateful for:

  • my family and friends and their health and well being
  • the internet and making money on it
  • the new york public libarary and my kindle
  • photography at large
  • tea (both the beverage, and gossip)
  • initiative and being a go getter
  • the jumperoo that is saving my sanity one bounce at a time
  • warm cozy blankets
  • john not caring that I’m “fat”
  • all of rohan’s mini milestones as he grows up
  • boots weather!
  • the law of attraction

YOUR TURN!!!



The Sleeping Pouch

I used to have an Ergo Baby carrier. I now have a magical sleeping pouch.

It’s very easy to use.

First, find a crying baby and put him in the pouch:

Then, wait 5 minutes and…..

Ta Da!!!

How ’bout that!

Do you have anything that knocks your crybaby out for the count?

Living A Maybe Life

The past few weeks since being back from Florida I’ve made a conscious effort to do more things out of the house (with and without the shark and his father) and I’m loving it. The walks I take with Rohan strapped on to me don’t count.

Remember that post when I said I don’t think I’d ever lose myself to motherhood.  Well I am glad I’m catching myself before I do. I wasn’t losing myself in the way discussed in that post…I shower daily and will change clothes if barfed on lol…but I was losing my more social side.

I’ve been living a maybe life since even before Rohan was born. And not even a real maybe, where there’s a chance of a yes. I’ve been living the kind of “maybe” your mom gave you when you were little and asked for something, and she totally wasn’t going to give it to you but wanted to shut you up. Those maybes meant no, and we knew it. Since about May I’ve been just giving friends a dry “maybe” to most social suggestions. Especially the ones where wearing a baby would not be appropriate.

Random acquaintances from my past are popping up and back into my life these days and I’m starting to say yes to outings with them…and also saying yes to networking events and outings with new friends. I’m grateful that John’s schedule allows for some mommy escape time.

And I’m even more grateful that I’m loosening my death grip on the boy. I’m slowly feeling more and more comfortable with leaving him for a few hours at a time so I can have a date with his daddy, or go to dinner with a friend.

I don’t want to live a maybe life. I want to have a full life and say “yes.”

In an improv class I used to take, the most important rule was to always say “yes and…”

In the class it was referring to not stopping your fellow actor’s momentum to take a scene in a direction you’d prefer, but to join in and go wherever they were going. But now I’m taking the “yes and” approach with my life and on a broader scale.

I’ve already been saying yes to business opportunities, yes to getting my health back on track, yes to being a conscious mother and wife…so why not say yes to a healthily active social life too? I’m glad I’m making the effort again.

Have you ever caught yourself living a maybe life? What did you do to change it? What are you saying yes to?