There’s no Santa!
Sorry to burst your bubble girls!!!
So…apparently, my son is going to have a horrible childhood. He’s going to be robbed of the joy of the holiday season because we are not going to be doing the whole Santa thing with him.
Because, naturally, my child’s happiness is completely dependent on the existence of Santa.
And Santa is what the holiday season is all about.
*insert eye roll here*
Give me a break people!
Only a handful of people I’ve spoken to about this have agreed with me, and will not be teaching their kids that the gifts under the Christmas tree are left by Santa either. Most folks think I’m being mean.
I say lying to your children about something so incredibly silly is meaner than being honest.
Why make the holiday season about manipulation “be good or Santa will bring you coal” (First of all, don’t get me started on the whole good boy bad boy value judgement thing in children that this brings up) when we can make the holiday season about family, friends, togetherness, gratitude, giving and quality time…etc?
That’s what we’re going to do in our family. John and I are not religious, so we’re not going the whole “Jesus’ Birthday” route with our children. We are going to make the season festive and special and make it more of a “we’re celebrating the winter solstice (or just the end of the year) and we’re doing it by getting together, eating, laughing, playing and exchanging gifts to those we love” type vibe.
Our holiday rituals will be different. Maybe instead of writing letters to Santa we’ll have our kids write letters of what they’re grateful for…pictures with Santa will be replaced with family photo sessions…and instead of waiting up for Santa on Christmas eve we’ll make it family game night. John also suggested we look up holiday traditions around the world to find non-santa, non-religious things we may want to incorporate. We should probably check out Kwanzaa traditions too since it’s more cultural than religious…
This Christmas is more for me and my camera. Sharkie won’t remember this, but I’ll have the photos to show him what his first Christmas season was like. As he gets older and his friends and cousins are talking about Santa, he’ll know what it is, but he won’t be “a believer.”
People say “Oh your kid’s going to ruin it for the kids who believe in Santa!”
I say: Who told you Santa wasn’t real? Most likely it was someone who used to believe and now knows the truth. It likely wasn’t a child who never believed at all. Once kids know the truth, they want to share it.
We’re going to teach Roey that some people believe in Santa, and some don’t, but we should always allow people to believe what they want without trying to change (or ridicule or challenge) their beliefs. Because everyone’s beliefs are valid….. or something like that. I’ve got time to think up our wording LOL. I think that’s how we’ll handle the whole different religious beliefs thing too.
If not having Santa (or that wretched bastard the Elf on the Shelf) in Rohan’s life makes him have an awful childhood, then John and I are doing some things incredibly wrong.
There will be no Santa in the H household.
Do your kids believe in Santa. What will you tell them when they ask you if he really exists? When did you find out there was no Santa?