John and I have our first parenting situation where we’re on opposite sides:
John wants our son to cry himself to death, cold and alone.
I want our son to be happy and feel secure and loved.
OK I’m being a little extra…
Here’s the deal. I’m getting up with Sharkie to nurse once a night around 4 or 5am and I’m OK with it especially since he’s giving us 6-7 hour stretches then goes back down again for a few more hours of sleep. (Editors Note: last night he gave us 8 hours straight! #win)
Our pediatrician says he should be sleeping 8 hours minimum and can go about 12 hours at this age. She suggested a 3-night sleep training technique that she swears works, but entails letting Rohan cry it out.
I am not a fan of the cry it out technique, it just seems cruel to me. I do know several moms who love it and says it changed their life though. John doesn’t have any real problem with the cry it out technique and wants to try it. He handles Sharkie’s crying better than I do…I think he knows how to tune it out or something. I’m the one who tends to go get the Sharkster when he starts to fuss, whether it be during the day or in the night.
When we were leaving the pedi’s office we ran into a couple with a 9 month old who also received the same 3dayCIO advice from the doctor when their son was 3 months, but they tried a combo technique that they introduced us to:
Have you ever heard of The Sleep Lady? I’ve ordered her book and want to see what it’s all about. The couple told us it’s a kinder gentler method than the traditional Cry it Out technique where you let your baby wail for a few minutes, then go in to check on them and let them wail a bit longer before you check on them again… increasing the length of the wailing sessions until the baby is asleep.
That seems just…wrong to me. I can understand it more with a toddler who’s fighting bedtime, but with an infant? I just can’t see it.
I say, if I don’t mind getting up once a night to feed him and put him back down, then there shouldn’t be a problem!
Let’s see what the sleep lady is all about.
Did you do the cry it out technique? When did you start sleep training? And if you didn’t do CIO, when did your little one start sleeping through the night?
PS Before I was even pregnant I wrote about this topic. Check out the comments. Really great mom advice there. http://www.okdani.com/2010/12/15/cry-it-out/