#TendrilTuesday: 5 Attributes of a Successful Transitioner


5 Attributes of a Successful Transitioner

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Transitioning from relaxed hair to your natural hair texture can be a very rewarding and interesting journey. Alternatively, it could be a frustrating and depressing mission. When transitioning, you are dealing with two very different textures on each strand of hair. You are focusing on an end date of your transition, and you are dreaming about your natural texture. The further along you are in your transition, the more of a texture difference you experience. This is not an easy journey, but it is a very attainable one. In order to be a successful transitioner you must have the attributes that help you reach your goal.

Successful Transitioners Must:

• Be gentle
• Be patient
• Be open-minded
• Be flexible
• Be observant

Let’s explore the reasoning behind these transition-friendly attributes, shall we?

1. Be Gentle:
Raking a comb from root to tip is going to a) hurt like hell, b) compound tangles and c) break and snap your beautiful hair. During your transition you will have two very different textures on your head, with very different likes/dislikes. One thing both textures have in common is the need for a gentle touch. Gently comb hair from tip to root, and gently brush, manipulate and style your hair. This will avoid breakage and the turmoil involved with knotted tangled masses of hair.

2. Be Patient:
Your hair is not going to grow out overnight. Sorry. But it will grow. And it will grow at approximately ½ inch per month. While dealing with the two textures on your head may seem like an eternity, it’s only for a predetermined amount of time. (One that YOU chose, mind you) And during this time, your only job is to relax, and keep both textures healthy. If you find yourself in the mirror every day with a ruler to your new growth…I urge you to braid your hair up, or get a weave, or somehow put your hair “away” for a bit. Patience is a virtue….best learned while waiting! 

3. Be Open-minded:
So many of us have been getting our hair relaxed so long that we have totally disconnected with our natural hair texture. We’re conditioned to get a touch-up as soon as the “nappy” roots begin to peek out. Many women transition with visions of loose hanging curls or tightly coiled afros in their minds eye, while their natural texture may not be able to accommodate those styles. It is important for transitioners to be open-minded about what their actual texture will be so as not to be disappointed if their texture is not the one of their dreams.

4. Be Observant:
Are you paying attention? Did you notice how your natural roots and your relaxed hair responded to your last deep conditioning treatment? Are you losing more hair than normal when you detangle? Is your hair drier? What are the differences in the feel of your natural versus relaxed hair? Transitioners must be extra observant in order to effectively manage both textures. Being observant helps you keep your hair healthy and have a successful transition because you will…..

5. Be Flexible:
Paying attention to both textures is key in flexibility. Being flexible is key in retaining two healthy textures on your head. If you’re flexible, you’ll quickly change up a product that doesn’t work well for one of your textures and avoid damage. You’ll also switch up styling options that no longer work for both textures. You’ll need to have a variety of styles that allow both textures to coexist happily. This means you’ll either make the relaxed ends curly or the natural roots straight.

If you’ve got these five attributes, you’ll have an easier, more rewarding transition and reach your goal with less stress. Good luck on your journey.

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Black Friday Deals From Entrepremoms



I’m excited to bring you some Black Friday Deals from Entrepremoms that have awesome businesses:

First up, I mean…I have to toot my own horn. Check out our holiday sales, from now to Dec 2.

holiday sale from beachbody coach

BONUS: I’m giving away your choice of either $15 cash back or a free blender for anyone who signs up to have me as their free coach and orders a challenge pack in the months of Nov or Dec! (A challenge pack is a fitness program + shakeology bundled together at a lower price.) Email me at coachdanifaust@gmail.com for more!


Cynthia D. Is the Director of Beauty at Beauty by CD and if you follow her on Instagram you know she’s got some magic hands when it comes to hair care. She’s styled tons of my shoots in the past and somehow always made it look like I had more hair than I really did LOL.


Anyway here’s her deal. Her salon is based in Brooklyn, NY.

Black Friday deal is all weaves …excluding the mircolinks..can be yours for $100 dollars, hair not included.   Thats Asymetrical Bobs., Weaves w Closures , Braidless Weave , Versatile Sewin and more… Offer and bookings must be made by Dec 19th and 50 dollar deposit made through PayPal email address Cynthia.dob@gmail.com vendor name frankly weaves n extensions
Follow on IG @beautybycd
(check out her hashtags on IG too, she cracks me up!)


Danielle S. was featured here in my Inspiring Entrepremom series, and she’s still inspiring and entrepremomming with her adorable crocheted items at Hook Smart.

Her deal is for Small Biz Saturday, so be aware:


I’ll be participating in Shop Small Saturday on November 29th. All my custom and ready to ship items will be 10% off with no coupon code needed. I’m also doing free shipping on all orders over $50 with code FREESHIP50. Fine print: Any custom items purchased are not guaranteed for Christmas delivery, so if it’s a Christmas present buy a ready to ship item or a gift card. This will be the last weekend for custom item orders in 2014. The official deadline is December 1st.


Mimi is an entrepremom that inspired me with her hustle when I met her at BlogHer this year. I don’t think I ever told her how she made me take a look at what I was doing and find ways to step it up. She’s got a great line of blinged out shoes…

mi to u

Her deal is:

From Mi To You custom designs Junk Chuck’s (canvas shoes) using rhinestones, paint and other special embellishments. They are the most stylish and unique sneakers you will ever wear. Custom made for gals & guys of all ages. Perfect for special occasions such as birthdays, weddings, 1st day of school, or everyday style. Allow From Mi To You to custom design a pair of Junk Chuck’s no one else will have.

$5.00 off kid orders!!
$10 off adult orders plus free matching keychain!!


Happy Shopping!!

4 Years Down….Happy Anniversary

valley of fire wedding

Happy Anniversary Jonathan!

Do you know who I am?

I’m the woman who napped from 10:30a.m to 2:00pm today.

Best anniversary present ever!! Sleep.

(John, if you’re reading this, don’t think you’re off the hook! I still want a real present ::look::)

Four years came so fast! I still feel weird saying it’s our 4 year anniversary when it’s more like our 13th.

We got engaged and married in 2010 though. Feels like yesterday.

Here’s our wedding recap if you never enjoyed that debacle….hot mess….special day…. :)

Last year on our anniversary I posted about what I’ve learned in 3 years of marriage.

2nd anniversary photo

2nd Anniversary Pic 2012

This year… welp… I don’t think I’ve learned anything new lol. I was pretty damn smart last year. It all still holds true.

Yesterday I saw Gone Girl (which is NOT the best representation of marriage lol did you see/read that shit? YIKES!) but the wife said something like “if two people who love each other so much can’t make a marriage work, then that’s a real tragedy.”

And I agree.

John has been my best friend for 13 years and counting. We’ve been through some serious highs and serious lows. We chose to do life together and through the ebbs and flows we’re growing and getting better for it. I love him to bits. Always have, and always will.

young couple


Since I know you’re reading today …. Quick list of why I Love John H:

  • Well, namely, that nap I got today was the business….
  • 2 blankets on the bed idea (genius!)
  • 13 years of belly laughs
  • your handyman capabilities
  • support of all my kooky ideas
  • mind reading capabilities
  • introducing me to new things
  • letting me just be crazy
  • T25-ing with me
  • you always do the gross things I dont wanna do
  • reaching all the high stuff and opening everything “johndoit”
  • your hackeriness and “F the man”ishness

How we’re celebrating:

We’re having a lazy day. Hell, I slept most of it!

Later we’re ordering in from my favorite lil restaurant nearby and I’m watching Scandal and HTGAWM #judgemeifyawanna

After that….well….John told me his idea and I was just like….

okay reaction gif


That’s pretty much the best anniversary date we can muster rightaboutnow. #timesishard #oknothey’renotwe’rejustlazybastards

Come back in a year…5th anniversary….sheeeeeeit….it’s gunna be a rager! We may even leave the house!!  ::does dougie::

Other than that…we’re listening to some of our fave love-ish tunes:


And no anniversary would be complete without triple T:

Talk to you girls tomorrow!!