I’m excited to have Ana Taney of MommysBundle.com as my guest blogger for the day. I love this post, and I’m so gunna have to write a response post…except it’ll be….how motherhood made me a crappy wife and stole my sexy….LOL! Seriously, check out this post and let me know your thoughts. If you need me, I’ll be sorting through boxes and boxes of “stuff.”
Just a second. I know what you’re probably thinking…
Yeah, right! Lack of sleep, messy house and random toddler tantrums can help you be a better WIFE? Ha! Dream on!
But the answer is YES! Well, sort of. The key of course is to get through the rough parts first.
It’s no secret that those first few months after baby’s arrival can really strain the relationship between mommy and daddy. Neither of you are getting much sleep, you may argue about the piles of dishes and laundry sitting around or you may simply feel overwhelmed to find there’s no “me time” — let alone time for penciling in date night on the calendar.
But all the rough patches and tough times you are able to overcome as a new mother really can put you on a path to better yourself as a wife and lover.
Here are 3 ways in my experience, where motherhood helped make me a better wife:
I was finally a better cook.
Let’s start with the obvious. A new child in your life can really force you to dig deep into your inner chef and experiment in the kitchen. That and the fact that you want your picky eater to finally eat ANYTHING nutritious. So somehow, you really do find a way to invest more time in cooking healthier and tastier meals for your entire family (husband included) way after baby is eating well.
And for me personally, cooking dinner every night even after caring for a baby all day, somehow became a natural transition where I actually enjoyed the process and appreciated the fact that the hubby loved his new meals too!
I learned to communicate better.
When baby first came along I felt like it was he and I vs. the world (including my husband). This definitely caused a bit of tension. But when I stopped bottling up these frustrations and starting telling my partner exactly what I needed help with, he started to pay attention. Sometimes with men you simply have to spell it out and tell them exactly what they can do to help out.
I learned to lighten up.
I admit it. In the beginning I was one of those anal retentive parents who worried about every little thing that came anywhere within 10 feet of baby. (Really who wouldn’t be with a newborn?) So initially this endless worrying caused a bit of stress in the relationship. But I finally realized that sometimes you just have to go with the flow and let baby get dirty, let those repulsive diaper explosions take their course and even let daddy do things his way. When you do this, things just get easier. Being able to let loose a bit helped me learn to sit back, relinquish a little bit of control and enjoy my family.
There you have it. The reality is, with all the many blessings and joys of motherhood, there also comes much stress on your marriage. But keeping at it and taking things one step at time can actually help you be BOTH a better mother and wife in the process.
Can you think of any ways motherhood has helped you be a better wife?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!