Braidouts, Purple Hair, Big Chop and Clear

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I have been wearing my hair in a bun or ponytail for the last 8 months. Since I started my job when I moved to Florida, I have been pulling my hair back from Monday to Friday. Then on the weekends I’d just wear a wash n go. Now that I’m home, I’m wearing a wash n go more often, but I finally stopped being lazy and did my first braidout in a long time. My last braidout was done before I chopped all my hair off to donate. That was 2013.

So I put some coconut oil on my hair and braided it up after washing and conditioning with Clear Intense Hydration shampoo and conditioner. I rolled the ends on satin rollers since they would unravel if I didn’t. Then I let it air dry. It dried overnight. I used a satin scarf to protect it from getting messy in bed. Here are my results! Me likey!

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I’m dying my hair purple. Yep. I said it. I’m doing it. Now that I’ve left corporate america (for the LAST time) I am free to look how I wanna. I’m getting a tattoo that’ll be visible when clothed, and I’m getting funky hair color. Not sure if I want to do my whole head, or just the front, leaving the back black… I guess I’ll see and decide after I BC.  

As it stands My hair is about 75% natural with the rest scraggly  permed ends. I’m ready to chop the straight parts off. Not sure if I’ll go it alone or head to a stylist to cut and shape it for me. (Maybe both?) But, once I BC I’ll be heading to a stylist to get my purple on. I’ll have to take super good care of my hair once I go purple. I’ll first have to go even blonder, then put the purple on top. That’s a lot of damage.

purple hair collage  

Have you had a funky hair color before?


Do you use those little samples of lotion or shampoo that come in the mail? I’ve been using CLEAR SCALP & HAIR™ Intense Hydration Shampoo and Conditioner (and have John using it too) since I got a random sample packet in the mail a few years ago.  I usually hold on to those samples for a while before trying them or tossing them out during one of my seasonal purges.  I’m glad this one made the cut. It’s all about keeping your hair and scalp healthy!  

John has used this brand more than any other for the past few years. He has “normal” hair. Doesn’t dry out easily, but doesn’t get too greasy when dirty either. I envy him that. My hair gets dry just for GP. Add to that now my whole blonde coloring…. I would have some serious breakage and damage issues if I let my natural dryness + colored fragility go without taking steps to keep my scalp and hair healthy.

For me, this means…keeping my scalp clean and lots and lots of conditioning and moisturizing. The Clear shampoo is great for me because it cleanses without making my hair feel stripped or “squeaky” clean. I use the conditioner to keep my curls popping and dryness at bay. I also use the mask and keep it on for a long time, deep conditioner style under a shower cap as I go about my day.  I actually used the mask for about an hour before doing the braidout style posted up top.



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Mommy Pampering & Blonde Hair

before blonding


So, you girls know me and my box-dye issues: Exhibit A


Well, I have wanted to lighten up a little bit and have a dynamic light browney blondey look that didn’t come off too…clunky when I wear my hair curly. Sometimes even if my curls are defined, they’ll appear really dense and “one note” unless there is a color variation.

Enter Chiala & Cutler Salon.

(Now, you already know how I feel about my boo Mike, and how I have trust issues with new stylists…but…*big exhale*… this worked out really well.)

I visited the CUTLER downtown salon and immediately felt like I’d be OK. Bye bye nerves.

I met Chiala the stylist and got prepped for the service. We decided to just do a tiny bit of blonding in the front to keep the gradient / faux-ombre thing I’ve got working…

during blonding


OK So I got a lil nervous again when I saw just how BLONDE the lighter parts of my hair were getting… but after she toned it, the color was awesome. (Full disclosure: They do not know what to do about styling a black woman’s half permed, half natural transitioning head of hair… but I forgive them…cuz the color is perfect. I styled it to be more ME when I got back to the hotel)

after blonding wet

CUTLER salon felt like I was walking into a salon from TV. Everyone was so trendy and beautiful, looking like they give a damn. It was nice to see. People kept offering me drinks, and asking if I was OK or needed anything. At first I thought it was because they knew I was a blogger, but after speaking with one of the stylists. They didn’t know I was there for a sponsored service. They just thought I was some random client.

after blonding dry 2


I gotta tell you. It felt wonderful to be pampered for those couple of hours. (the scalp massage was everything!)  I’ve been doing better with self-care and this was a reminder to keep up my efforts. As moms we just do do do, go go go and give give give. When does it end? When is our time? Me time?

SO a huge thanks to Chiala, to CUTLER salon, and to Conde Nast which is the reason I had this opportunity in the first place.
Thanks for the me time in the midst of a hectic weekend!

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Check out Redken’s Blonde Idol line if you’ve got any golden hues in your hair.

PS I love that my roots aren’t done and love that it still looks dark from the front….

still dark

Up next with my hair. Straightening for a length check, and also cutting away some more permed ends for a better shape when I wear it out curly. *GULP!*

What’s up with your hair lately?

Tendril Tuesday: Transitioning Hair Update


Tendril Tuesday: Transitioning Hair Update


I’m 10 months into my transition now. (Last touchup was May 9, 2014) I don’t know how long I’ll end up transitioning, but I’m going at least a year for sure. I’m used to dealing with two textures, especially since I did a 22 month transition before. I do dislike having the straight ends and top layer, with my springy curls hidden underneath, but it is what it is. It’s growing and eventually will be back to all-natural curls.

Length Check:

March 1st. This is my starting point.  My hair is currently just above collarbone length. I’m going to straighten and take starting photos so I can track my growth again. Feels like forever since I have done a length check, doesn’t it?! I’m over the post-partum hair loss (and stress hair loss), and that’s starting to get filled back in too.

collarbone length natural hair


I’ve been slacking.

I admit. A deep conditioner hasn’t been slapped on my head in a while.

My plan is to start doing them again on Sundays.

Right now my regimen is:

Shampoo once a week. Co-wash 2-3 times a week. Rinse with water otherwise.

I wet my hair daily, but I don’t necessarily wash it daily. (I do use my fingertips to rub my scalp and detangle daily though.)

Moisturize daily and use coconut oil (or another oil) daily, then style and go.


I either wear it pulled back in a bun, or a bun with a front twist/front braid, or out loose with a headband.

It’s too short and evenly cut to wear out without a headband. If I do I get that triangle shape that I personally don’t like.

I admit I have not been experimenting at all with styles. I have zero desire to spend time on my hair with everything else pulling at my time.


I finally unpacked all my hair products and tools. I have SO much still. So I’m on operation use-up. It’s going to take a while. I’ve put myself on a hair product shopping ban. (even though I just got a great deal on some Pantene and Herbal Essences) I doubt I’ll have to buy anything (other than deep conditioner) this year!

As for tools:

This Fabulous Comb is all I’m really using.

And of course my scarf and satin pillowcase


I officially decided to start growing my hair out again to donate.

I’m steadfast in my decision not to cut until mid-July, when I’m back in NYC for BlogHer and can go to my fave stylist. Last trim was 9/10/14 so I’m long overdue. I’m not sure if I’ll end up cutting away all the relaxed hair and BC (I’m not donating any permed hair)….. or if I’ll just trim, shape it with layers, and color it. But either way, no scissors are coming near my head until then. I’m firm in that decision and not wavering.

What’s up with your hair lately?

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#TendrilTuesday: I Want To Cut It All Off


I want to cut my hair

I’m the worst.
I know it.
My hair is really annoying me these days.
I keep telling myself to leave it alone at least until the summer…but…
Not sure if I can make it.
Need to give myself some incentive to not BC.
Any ideas?

Cuz honestly…I want to cut it…right. NOW.


Maybe I will straighten it out and see how it looks. That may buy me a few weeks of satisfaction and not have me lookin to cut.

Honestly, the only think keeping me from cutting is not having a stylist down here.

I’ll be back to NYC in July for BlogHer so maybe I’ll just wait until then…. If I can.

How do you convince yourself not to cut your hair?

What are you up to with your hair these days?

2015 Hair Goals and Color Treated Transition Update

pinned up twa updo short natural hair

I had to do a touch up….. well… I’ve had to do a touch up for weeks now… but I finally got around to it a couple weeks ago.

I searched a bunch of stores but couldn’t find the dye I used last time. So, I did what my inner cheapskate told me to… I bought the least expensive blonde dye I could find…. Colorsilk! lol

This color its no where near as strong as the dark and lovely I tried last time but it got rid of the stark black roots which was the goal.
I only applied it to my new growth and a little bit of my length. Left the bottom half of my hair alone. It’s fried enough and too blonde.

color treated transitioning natural hair

I love the ombre action

Which brings me to the gross negligence I’m guilty of as far as this hair is concerned. I’m not using heat and I’m not shampooing often…but I’m not deep conditioning or moisturizing daily like I know I need to to keep my hair in good shape.

I’d love to just cut it off, but I’m here in Florida and don’t yet have a stylist that I trust. Gunna get some recommendations. I am at the point where I think I’d rather have all natural, non-ponytail-able hair versus this weird, two textured transitioner hybrid…

I was really hoping to be able to hold out until May 11th to make it to a full year of transitioning….

Maybe I will just trim away some of the yucky ends…I haven’t cut it since September 10th.

My day to day hair is a side parted slicked back pony tail. I sometimes just wear it loosely pinned up like the picture up top. (except usually sliiiightly neater lol)

2014 was a different hair year.

I relaxed bone straight for the first time ever.

I kept my hair short for the first time ever. (but since sept 10 was my last cut I’m growing it back as of then)

I colored like crazy (well… that is not so different)

My hair plans for 2015 are: 

  • maintain color while keeping hair as healthy as possible
  • don’t BC hair until May 11 or later
  • grow hair to shoulder length (if no BC) OR collarbone length (if I do BC)
  • get back to deep conditioning regularly and trying new products again
  • experiment with more styles while short/transitioning

Check out what my #1 hair goal for last year was: Here.

LMAO That was a huge fail huh?! hahaaa

What are your hair goals for 2015?