I just said that.
Actually… I want a third and a fourth child.
—insert John fainting here haha —
When we were just dating, before marriage and kids, John and I always said we wanted two children naturally– a boy, and a girl. Then we planned on adopting an older boy when our children were older. That was the plan.
After Kai was born I was like…yup. This is it. Shop lock. We dun. Uh uh. No mas por favor.
Now, she’s about to turn 3 next month. Rohan turns 5 in June. And I think I want another baby.
That said… I don’t want Kai to be a middle child. So we need to round things out to 4 children. ::side eye to myself::
John is on board for baby #3. This is a huge surprise. When I mentioned a 3rd child jokingly when Kai was younger, he would break out in a red-faced sweat.
He always wanted 3 children. But…having another baby (or two) would really change things.
There is the practical stuff like: more money, a bigger car, bigger home, more shuffling around with schools and activities…
But I think about the other random tiny changes 3 or more children would bring like:
- One of my babies being the odd man out (if 3)
- Not being able to snuggle all 3 the same during storytime
- Not having 3 arms to hold all 3 hands at once when we’re crossing a street
I asked friends on facebook what their challenges were with having 3 or more children. They mentioned logistical concerns with activities, money concerns, travel inconvenience and cost, noisy messy house, fighting, giving each enough 1:1 attention, the time it takes to get out the house, to bed, finish dinner, etc…
So many negatives.
Notice I didn’t ask them about the benefits. Subconsciously I wanted to be talked out of it I guess. Ha!
Even when I write my own pro vs con list about it… my con side is like 10 pages long and the pro side is just like: LOVE.
Right now John and I have tabled the discussion. But… I’m 35 and have rough pregnancies so I need to hurry up and decide.