Rohan Meets Kaya

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When Rohan first met Kaya, he was just released from a 1.5 hour car ride, and was at home for the first time in 4 days. He was a wild man. Running here and there, shreiking, pointing at and labeling everything in sight, screaming everyone’s name and hugging everyone.

Except me.

Except the lady holding the baby.

I cried.

My mom guided him over and was like Rohan here’s Kaya, this is your sister. He said: Whoa! Cool! And commenced running, shrieking, pointing and labeling.

I was disappointed.

Later on, when he’d settled in and calmed down to his normal self. He came to me and gave hugs and was all mama mama mama again. He took some long looks at Kaya but didn’t say much or try to touch her. We encouraged him to touch her hand gently, but he wanted no part of it.

When I was changing her, he came over and watched, still silent. But just nodding slowly. This is odd because normally he’s asking questions about everything, touching everything and opening everything. But he just watched tentatively not moving besides nodding.

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On the second day, he was a little braver. He touched her hand (stole her mitten) and gave her kisses before his nap and before bed. He raced over when she cried, and he calls out for her and waves “hiiiii” in her face. I think he wonders why she doesn’t respond.

Since then he’s been great about her. I have to remind him to be gentle, and watch like a hawk if she’s in her rocker while he’s tornado-ing around the living room. He hears her first when she wakes up, and screams “KAYA FUSSING!” and bounds down the hall and waits for me to catch up. He loves helping, and will get her items for changes, and blankets and whatnot. He loves giving her kisses and hugs and is brazenly touching her, reading to her and showing off his coloring pages to her. lol.

 

Roey Kisses Kaya

HOWEVER…. In general, his behavior has started deteriorating. He’s tantrumming more than ever, and I’m not sure if it’s because of “terrible two” toddlerness, or if it’s Kaya related. Maybe a bit of both. ::shrug::  He’s gotten a few time outs, and boy does he hate that.  Luckily, threatening time outs gets his behavior back on track…usually. (He’s lucky he hasn’t gotten punched in the face yet.)

Overall He’s a great big brother, and loves when we praise him for being one. He’s dealing with a bit of jealousy but he’s such a resilient lil trooper that he’s handling it in stride. Giving him special one on one Roey/Mommy time helps. But, I can’t wait until they can play together.

Any ideas on how to keep making big bro feel extra special?

We Really Do Not Need Stretch Marks

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Dear Universe: We don’t need stretch marks! Stop giving them to us dammit! Sincerely, Striped Mothers Everywhere

::sigh::

My stretch marks make my belly look seriously fugly.

I know some women don’t care, or want to view their stretch marks as “battle scars” and say they “earned them” etc.

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Whatever.

Not for me.

I wish they weren’t there.

After Rohan there were some, and I didn’t mind them one bit!

Now after Kaya there are a million evil, jagged, zig zaggy devil stripes all around my middle and I can’t stand them.

I read a post on Blogher bashing women who said their stretch marks ruined their stomachs, and that their baby ruined their body etc.

The post was going in on these women, as if they were not allowed to feel this way simply because the scars were caused by a baby.

How I feel about my marks has nothing to do with how I feel about my babies.

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Don’t even know how that flawed logic came about….

Yes, the human body is miraculous. Yes growing a person inside you and then popping them out to live among us is the most awe inspiring, amazing, affirming things…. ever.

But you know what would be even more amazing?

More miraculous?

If the human body could do all that magical stuff…. and….. not leave stretch marks behind.

Yup.

I mean, why not?

If our bodies are capable of this level of magic, why not just sprinkle a lil extra magic in and have zero stretch marks or extra fat deposits?

We don’t need any “proof” of pregnancy left behind. We have the child for that.

You know what?

I’m gunna leave this very important post in God’s suggestion box just in case he gets around to it….maybe after ending world hunger.

Women of the future will thank me, I’m sure.

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::stalks away hoitily::

What very important issue are you going to put in God’s suggestion box?

And did you do anything to lighten your stretch marks?

Bevel is Changing the Shaving Game

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Bevel is changing the shaving game for coarse-haired men and I am so excited! … for my dad…

I remember from a very young age my dad having exactly 4 million razors in an oversized mug. I think he’d use them once or twice then they would somehow fail him and go into the mug never to be used again. I later learned that he was searching for “the one.” He wanted a razor that was going to give him perfect results and not have him end up with bumps later.

African American hair is super curly, and when growing back after shaving it curls and sometimes causes ingrown hair bumps and other irritations and annoyances. I know we girls can get these razor bumps too, when shaving the bikini area, but men have to deal with this drama in a much more noticeable area.

My ex would try every single lotion and potion he could get his hands on to avoid the bumpy face and neck. I went into his linen closet one day and saw all kinds of products for women’s skin and we had a lovely fight until he told me what it was for. I knew he would buy every new razor and every new men’s facial cream as soon as it would come out. Do you notice how razors now have like 700 blades on them? Crazy. (I bet my ex owns one like that, LOL.)

I remember daddy slathering on Barbasol (yes… he’s old) and trying out a new razor, fancier looking than the last. It would end up in the mug too. He would even go get professional shaves from ancient looking men who, to my young eyes, moved in s-l-o-w m-o-t-i-o-n. Those professional shaves were the only shaving experiences he wouldn’t complain about. Too bad that back in the day they weren’t in the budget to do on a regular basis.

Bevel has a new range of products to help men like my dad and ex get clearer, smoother skin in 4 weeks. They’ve developed a shaving system specifically for people with coarse, curly hair. The kit includes a razor, blades, brush, priming oil, shaving cream and restoring balm and Bevel’s products were clinically tested to reduce and prevent razor bumps and irritation.

Once I found out about this I knew I just had to have Daddy try it out.

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Daddy’s “Unboxing” Video:

Dad Tries Bevel:

 

 

Smooth… like a gravy sandwich:

 

 

In short: He loved it. He only tried the cream and the razor/blades but he’s a fan. He thought the cream was great (maybe he’s found his Barbasol replacement!) and liked the quality of the razor itself saying that it felt well-made. (It was heavy too.) Since that day he’s tried the restoring balm and said it felt “fancy.” So I guess that’s a good thing! The Bevel razor is not goin’ into the mug!

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Do you have any products where you’re searching for “the one”?

Use Promo Code OKDANI20 for a great 20% discount off the first month at Bevel!!

Fit Friday – And So It Begins

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Oh girls, I ate so horribly during my pregnancy. I really did. We had take out multiple times a week. The last two weeks while I was feeling “punished” by the pain I was in, I totally self medicated with oreos and entenmanns… and flat soda…and ice cream. Lots. of. Ice Cream.

Whatever.

That’s the past. What’s done is done.

What’s to come is what matters.

I have one meal taken care of each day. That’s my a.m. shakeology shake. I pop some fruit or greens and milk in there, shakey shake (or vroom it around in my trusty nutribullet) and I’ve got the most nutritious meal of the day all done.

What happens after that is where the hard part comes in…

No more snacking on entenmanns and ice cream ::wipes tear:: No more chugging sweet juices and sweet teas. No more junk dammit!

Now my snacks are:

  • fruits
  • yogurt
  • hummus & carrots
  • …ok… and Rohan’s apple sauce

I just crave sweets all. the. time. #gottaworkonthat

John is on board to eat cleaner too, and he’s still doing his low carb thing 6 days a week. I can’t go low carb, and I definitely won’t be restricting calories at all since I’m breastfeeding Kaya, but I am making healthier food choices. (except last night when we had Chinese instead of cooking a healthy meal at home….but I digress)

I may end up going back to the Eat to Live way of eating…but what I know for sure right now is I need to clean up my eating if I’m going to see this baby belly go away for good.

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Until the doc says I can work out I’m going to just focus on:

  1. Drinking as much water as is humanly possible each day
  2. Making my snack choices healthier
  3. Replacing my morning snack or first meal with a shake
  4. Not eating/snacking/grazing after 9pm

I’m kinda glad there’s a delay before I can work out. Consistently eating well requires way more effort for me than consistently working out hard. We’ve all heard that “abs are made in the kitchen” and I sooo wish that wasn’t true. So it’ll be nice to have this month of April to try and wrangle my eating and clean it up before I add workouts to the mix. I’m going to have to be one of those people who ::gulp:: plans her meals in advance. ::hyperventilates::

OK. So. It begins today. As it stands I’m holding on to 30lbs of extra weight. (Why God? Why!?!) Some of that is definitely in the boob area, so I’m going to make my (tentative) goal 25 lbs off and a fit body. (Though if my weight stayed exactly the same while my body transformed from mushy to fit I’d be totally fine with that too.)

Do you have any fitness plans? How’d you lose your baby weight?

April, Already?

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Wow. It’s April guys. Summer will be here before we know it. Yikes! I have huge plans for this month. I always have huge plans lol…do they always work out? No. But that doesn’t stop me from making huge plans the very next month anyway. hehe

I feel like April is going to be a hectic month of trial and error in our household. Trying to figure out a schedule that works for Rohan and Kaya, and allows me to get work done as well. I’m SO. FREAKIN. BEHIND. in work, it’s ridiculous. And with the new biz I’m basically doubling my work load. Plus school’s start date is looming like an evil ogre waiting to eat me up. ::le sigh:: I’ll figure it all out.

A friend of mine on FB posted something recently that I can’t remember word for word but it was basically, I’ll go hard now, and struggle, suffer, and be stressed now….so that in a few years everything will be a breeze.  Now, I don’t know what kinda breezes I’ll be having in a few years, but I know that I too will go hard now, so things are easier (or over and done with) later.

Let’s see how I did with March’s goals:

  • Wash all of her clothes/sheets/blankets etc.
  • Wash and sterilize all of Roey’s old bottles and breast pump parts
  • Pack hospital bag and buy whatever I may need for it
  • Get apartment organized and decorated fully
  • Pre-blog so there’s not too much “dead air” here
  • Make a few big meals to freeze: soup, chili, lasagna
  • Buy immediately needed items: diapers, nipple cream
  • Get all my pieces in before deadline and take on no new projects
  • Get a freakin haircut
  • Have a date night with the husband
  • Try to survive life with a cray cray toddler, newborn, and body that feels like death warmed over

Not bad! Not bad at all :)

APRIL PLANS (Not exactly…goals…per se)

  • Get a muthableepin’ haircut for the love of God!! (and decide whether i’m perming again or not)
  • Blog steadily here and on my beachbody blog
  • Start eating healthier and drinking more water
  • Fatten up my teeny baby girl with only the finest breastmilks
  • Return to Youtube
  • Secure an incidental sitter and a twice a month cleaning person (thank’s John!)
  • Visit doc and get cleared to work out
  • Take a walk all alone – no baby strapped to me or pushing in a stroller
  • Taxes!
  • Finish my new vision board
  • Create some sort of schedule so I don’t go completely insane
  • Lose some of this baby weight somehow
  • Start working on sponsorships for BlogHer
  • Book all my summer travel so my anxiety about prices is relieved
  • Learn a magic spell to get rid of these hideous stretch marks (where my wiccans at?)

What are your goals for the month of April?

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