How To Procrastinate


Procrastination is such a dirty word, isn’t it? It means you’re lazy, dreading your to do list, irresponsible or just not a hard working professional, right?

Nah, I don’t subscribe to that BS and neither should you. Here’s why. We NEED procrastination. Really! We need to take breaks from what we’re working so hard on so we can do it even better. (trust me)  What I promote to my clients is “Planned Procrastination.” Here is how to plan to procrastinate in the best possible way.

How to procrastinate: 

Schedule It

This is my number one tip for busy, hard working folks. Schedule your break time. Put it on your planner or google calendar like you would any other important business meeting. If you have it on your calendar you’ll do three important things:

  1. Avoid burnout – and as any hard-working person knows, this can really sneak up on you
  2. Avoid the negative inner voice that berates you for “procrastinating”
  3. Remind yourself that YOU come first. Self care is everything. (What are you without your health?)

So when you’re creating your daily or weekly schedule, pop in some break time. I give myself a half an hour to an hour each day. Sometimes I don’t take all of it, but 9 times out of 10, I lay back and enjoy my planned procrastination without even one twinge of guilt. (I had to work my way up to turning off the guilt though. Trust me, you’ll get there.)

Relish It (#guiltfree)

Turn your bossy inner voice off! If you’re scheduling your time to procrastinate, do it full on! Enjoy, every delicious lazy moment of it! No apologies. Do not think about your to do list. Don’t think about what you’re going to do afterward or what you could be doing now. Just…relish in your (planned) freedom from work for a minute.  Enjoy the break. Sip a cuppa tea (or wine) and gratefully take in every bit of it. You deserve this. And even if you don’t…you scheduled it right? So basically you’re doing something you can soon check off of your to do list :) Look how productive you are!

If you’re too high strung to just chill for a bit of time during your busy day, the next two tips are for you.

Multitask It

If you’re going to be taking time out of your work day to procrastinate, why not use it wisely? Either use your work break to achieve another goal, or double up your activity to maximize your time. Binge-watching Scandal? Might as well paint your nails at the same time.  Laying down for a nap? (Lucky you!) Put on some affirmations to lull you to sleep. Use your break to start dinner or read to your kids or work out. On days when I can’t turn my brain off, I will brainstorm post ideas while I binge-watch something on Netflix or do some type of self-care item like walk or deep condition my hair.

Work It

I used to be a serious meta-worker. This is when you do something tangentially related to the work you actually should be doing, and feel busy and “productive” because of it. (Planning VS Actually Working) Organizing the spices before you make dinner. Rewriting your to-do list before actually doing something on it. Those things are procrastination disguised as work. AKA: Metawork. I would normally steer clients away from planning vs working. Metawork is usually a no no. However…..

For our planned procrastination purposes, metawork is now OK! If during your scheduled procrastination time you choose to fill it with metawork activities, you’re winning!!! Reading books or websites on a topic related to your field, brainstorming project ideas, looking through websites for blog post ideas… all OK and productive procrastination.

Have I convinced you yet? I sure hope so. Add a little free time into your schedule for tomorrow and let me know how much you enjoy it!

How do you procrastinate?

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I’m On The Run…from dogs?

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This post was set to go live on Friday for #FitnessFriday. I messed up somehow…

I’m on the run,

I told you what my soulmate workout was… and it’s definitely strapping on my sneaks and hitting the road.
Finally got back into my running groove! I have a quick easy route around the new house that is just perfect.  Feels good.
Got my new shoes, with the help of social media decision making. I posted three that I couldn’t choose between and ended up picking these beauties:
They’re so comfortable guys. Light. As. Air!
My mom got me some workout leggings a while ago and warned me before she pulled em out the bag…because they’re neon! But I”m grateful for my neon pink leggings. Nobody’s gunna hit me when I’m running in the road.
Since I now live in the sticks, I noticed other runners carrying sticks. (and one older gent carrying a golf club as he ran) I guess random loose dogs are a thing here…. lawd. I told John I need him to find me a good dog-fightin’ stick for my runs…
He suggested pepper spray.
(can you imaging pepper spraying a dog? …. can you imagine hitting a dog with a stick?)
I honestly don’t think I could. I legit would climb a tree, or hop a fence and call someone to come save me. (Imagine calling 911 for that? “911 what’s your emergency?”  “Um… there’s a dog.” ::click::)
But if that dog was comin’ after my lil ones, I’d have to just bash the hell outta the poor pooch’s head. #sorrynotsorry
I was chased by a dog once when I was at my great gramma’s house in Miami as a lil kid. Luckily my cousin came by and the dog decided that he was a better target. I’d never EVER seen my cousin run that fast….and he was in track & field! They disappeared around a corner and I hightailed it back to Ma’ Pearl’s house happy to be alive. Later that night, I’m watching wrestling with my great grandmother (sidebar, that old lady LOVED wrestling and would put us greatgrandkids in figure 4 leg locks!) and in comes my cousin, looking a hot disheveled mess, shirt torn, sweaty, etc…  I didn’t ask him, but in my head I remember thinking, WOW that dog chased him for a really long time!
[as mentioned above, this post was set for FRIDAY.  On Saturday, I got….BIT BY A DOG!!!!  Can you believe that shit?! It was not on a run though. I got out the car in my own damn driveway and the bitchass mutt from across the street ran over andgot me on the butt! (you can laugh.) I was (am) so upset. It could have very easily been Rohan or Kaya. I thank God, Allah, Yahweh, and Archangel Michael that I didn’t take them out the car yet…. I went to the hospital for a shot, and I reported that bitey lil summabitch. Animal control came yesterday and suggested I run with a stick!! (she also suggested an air horn, or pepper spray) And PS I carried a stick when I went for my run today after work.]
What was I talkin’ about again?
Oh yeah, running.
I found the Black Girls Run! group of South Florida, so I’m going to find me a running buddy soon. I want to do a race of some sort this summer!
Been running to some really…un-runny music. I need to get back to my playlist, or dancehall station on Pandora cuz…I love Hozier’s album and could listen to it on repeat, but it doesn’t really inspire me to sprint…

Have you been running lately?

Ever been bitten by a dog?

My Dad, Yo.

::deep sigh::
My dad yo...
My dad is no good with emotions. No good talking about feelings. If I start to get choked up, or emotional in any kinda way during a conversation with him, the poor man just can’t handle it. He’ll make a joke, hit me on the shoulder and then run away. (literally)
So, I generally don’t share any deep feelings with him in a way that will elicit conversation. I tell hime how I feel, but it’s sandwiched between something trivial he’s more comfortable talking about. That way he hears me, and knows, but then we talk about whatever b.s. was sandwiching the emotional bit.
The night we closed on the house, my dad and I were talking, and he got really serious with me and damned if he didn’t let a bit of emotion slip through the cracks.
I hadn’t spoken to him (or anyone else except for John, really) about how I was feeling having to go back to work, but he just knew. And he, in his gruff “i hate my kids, yet i’d break my own neck for them in an instant if they needed it” kinda way, put it in perspective for me.
I’m never one to knock working moms, or judge stay at home moms. Once you’re a mom, it’s always full time, on the clock 24/7, no matter where, when or if you work elsewhere. (i’m gunna have to post on that too, but I digress) 
But for me, all of my life, when I pictured myself with children, I pictured myself home with them full time. I wanted to be a stay at home (well, work at home) mom so I could be the primary caregiver, and personally give my kids a great start at life in the manner I choose (semi-granola, low tech, high love, high education/activity, flexible, maybe a little left of center…etc)
My dad sat me down and told me he was proud of me. (insert fit of tears here) He spent a lil time talking about his thoughts about the family, moving the family forward and up from where it came, and it truly surprised me. I didn’t think he gave a good god damn about that kinda stuff at large.
But then he hit me with the true tearjerker, basically saying not to be so hard on myself for this temporary situation. He told me how proud he was of me about how I’m raising Ro, impressed at my level of patience and that what I did with Rohan while I was home with him was tremendous but that Kaya will be amazing too, despite me working outside of the home.
He kinda drove home the point of not dwelling on the negatives about not being home with her, and to focus on the benefits it provides her and the rest of our family. (He should SO be a life coach!)
It was a good perspective to hear and take in. I’m trying to take it easy on myself in that way. That said, I set a goal of getting my biz in gear in such a way that I will be able to leave the workforce again (FOR GOOD!) by summer 2016. Name it and claim it. (just like I did here). Pray for me. Pray fi all a we.
But yeah…… I love my daddy. He gave me the warm n fuzzies that day. And I get warm n fuzzy thinkin’ about it right now.

When did you last get the warm n fuzzies?

Is your dad good w/ emotions?

Good News: I’m Speaking At #BlogHer15!!

In light of yesterday’s post gotta add a bit of good business news:


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I claimed it. And dammit it’s coming true.  (Hello law of attraction, I’m looking at you!)
I said this was going to be the year I push forward with my business (nothing like a 9-5 to motivate the hell outta ya) and I completely am. Being a speaker is (hopefully) going to be a part of my coaching career, and I’m excited to kick it off this year digitally with The Mommy Conference, and in-person at BlogHer.
Life is good I tell ya!
SUPER DUPER GRATEFUL for this opportunity. I’ve been to blogher every year since 2012 and always enjoyed it.
This year, it’s back in NYC (where it was in 2012, my first time there) so I get to mix in seeing family and friends, getting my hair done at a real salon ::side eye to florida:: and best of all, I get to feel all fancy cuz I’ll be a speaker and not “just” an attendee.
I totally feel like I now have this huge looming July deadline by which I must get my shit entirely together.
…..and figure out what to say, and how to say it.
Gosh, I hope I don’t accidentally drop an F bomb.
My lightning session is on Friday, and I’m discussing Organization. (do they even KNOW me? LOL ::shhhh:: don’t tell em.)
And, if you’re my friend…or my family…or a random passerby… here’s a code for 30% off a ticket to BlogHer!!! (you’re welcome)

Are you attending BlogHer this year?

What’s the latest good news you received?

Business Upgrade

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I made some big business decisions lately. I’m upgrading my business (and my life) and it feels good.

I decided to refocus my energy in a more productive (read: goal-reaching) way. (hello efficiency!)

I decided to STOP doing the ghostwriting I’ve been doing for other bloggers. *GULP* (adios $$….but….hello time!)

I decided how to seamlessly integrate beachbody and relaunch my coaching practice by July 15th. (hello BIG $$)

I decided to invest and enroll in marie forleos b-school (started yesterday), and work with a business coach later in the year. (adios $$, hello ROI)

I decided what I’m going to do with (hello clarity!)

I decided to put a big project on hold and move a different huge project (ebook!) to the forefront. (hello nerves!)

Overall I decided to stop playing small, man the F up, and get cracking. (hello walking the walk even more!)

This is kinda scary. But scary in a good way. Scary in a stretching way.

dreams dont scare you not big enough

How does OKDANI figure into all of this….
Well I’m going back to more personal blogging. Sharing more of my life stories, sharing my motherhood, marriage, fitness, and hair journeys. I don’t think my frequency of posting will change, 3 times a week seems to be my average.
A lot of my energy is going to be focused on building my business, and of course raising a happy healthy family (and raising a happy, healthy me!) so I’ll be sharing on alla that as well.
I don’t know if I’ve been this excited about business stuff before. Maybe when I first started making money from the blog, but since then, new projects and plans haven’t really fired me up the way I am now.
Lotsa good stuff to come!!

Have you made any business (or life) upgrades lately?