Hope you had an excellent long weekend! I did 🙂 Mommy took the kids so I was FREE!!! #hallelujah
OK I wanted to finish up answering the questions I got from my Ask Me Anything post a few weeks ago. So here we go!!
Is the reason you didn’t post part 2 of Kaya’s birth story because you’re suing the hospital for malpractice?
I read this question and literally was like:
But then I was like…..”wait….Can I do that?” LOL Then I read up on malpractice suits and realized I totally couldn’t. I have an awesome healthy lil babygirl, even though the cesarean was horrid. I don’t even want to create that kind of energy around me or her/her birth.
But to answer your question, no, the reason I didn’t post part 2 of Kaya’s birth story yet is simply because I’m a lazybones and just haven’t gotten around to writing it yet. It’s still very fresh and sharp in my memory so I’ll get on that for you. The poor child is about to be 6 months old in under three weeks…I better have her birth story done before then!
The #1 Question I received was asking about the separation update and a couple people asked how it effected Rohan. So here goes:
John and I went through (and are still kinda going through) a rough patch and no we are not still separated (though I think about running away a lot)
As for the dirty details, so not going into that here. But we’re doing OK and putting in effort and counseling to make things get back to great. Marriage and parenthood is just hard sometimes. So many pieces that have to work all at once. Roey and Kaya are blissfully unaware of anything. As far as Roey was concerned we just took a lil vacay to visit family in Florida. And now he has more people to scream for to come save him when he gets in trouble. I keep telling him Nana can’t take him out of time out, but he doesn’t listen. ::shrug::
Are you going to have more munchkins?
I’m two and through with this body! Pregnancy is hard. It’s amazing and miraculous…and HARD. Not doing that again. But my family isn’t finished. My birth family is, but I’m missing a son. We’re going to adopt later on, a black, american male between 5 and 10 yrs old. After speaking with one of my cousins at the family reunion last weekend John and I are going to have a real talk about fostering later on as well. (I just don’t know if I could bear it if they come try to take my boys from me to give back to their jacked up families…)
How do you balance having a social life with motherhood?
What’s a social life?
The #2 Question I received most were all hair related.
Will you ever go back to natural hair?
Yes, I’m currently transitioning, but unsure what I’m going to do. May cut off the permed ends at the end of the year, or just let them grow out and cut away slowly…not sure yet. I’m daydreaming about getting a tapered lil fade real soon and dye it some weird color like pink/purple/blue…
What were the major steps you took to keep your hair healthy while your were growing it out to donate it?
The major steps were:
- Moisture like crazy – moisturizing shampoo/condish, deep conditioners, daily moisturizers
- Being very gentle – gently detangling/combing, low manipulation styling, sleep with scarf or pillowcase with slip
In my opinion those are the major pieces of the grow-out puzzle, everything else is just patience and consistency.
How did you come up with your regimens?
Trial and error a bit, and also knowledge of self. I’m not dedicated enough to do a long ass drawn out two day regimen each week. I need easy and simple. I’m writing up a quick little regimen planner and will put it up on the blog shortly. Hopefully it can help someone out.
What are your favorite products?
Right now it’s:
Coconut oil – my eternal favorite
Cantu Leave In Conditioning Creme
Conditioners: Pantene Co Wash, Rahua, and
For more hair stuff: