I love snuggling with Sharkie and would love to have him in bed with me all night every night. John on the other hand wants him in his crib or pack n play only.
Boooo.
We put him down in his crib for his two long sleeps around 7 and again around 1, but when he wakes up around 5 or 6am I nurse him in bed and let him sleep on me or right next to me. (John hates this)
I understand that having Rohan sleep in between us can be potentially dangerous and can lead to him not wanting to sleep on his own in the future. I do. But I also understand that he is a sweet smelling, cute coo making, snuggly sweet little bunny and I just want him as close to me as possible at all times! Plus he’s so young still, having him with us now won’t mean he’ll be trying to sleep with us when he’s 5!
…..will it?! *gulp*
John’s going to kill me, but since I’ve been in Florida I’ve been one co-sleeping mo fo! And Roey is sleeping longer stretches now…I got 7 hours the last two nights and 5 hours consistently the nights before. At home I get one 5 hour stretch, then 4 hours after.
I forget where I heard it, but someone told me that the “your baby will die if you cosleep” statistics are skewed and stem from parents that were high/drunk etc…. Is that true? Have you ever heard that? I sleep so lightly now that Sharkie’s here. I wake up for any squeak, there’s no way I’d roll over on the boy. I don’t sleep wildly anyway.
Cosleeping is feeling so good for us and I hope I can get John on board. Maybe I can buy one of these or these as a happy medium.
Do you co-sleep with your babies/children? When did you stop? Did your spouse/partner approve? If not, how did you convince him? *looks down guiltily*
I cosleep. I couldn’t imagine it any other way..my cutie is almost 10 wks. But my hubs wrks nights and is hm only 2 nts out the week and he’s on our futon n the living room on those nts. I use this…which I luuu !
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I did it with both my kids and nothing happened my hubs didn’t care because he was able to sleep through the night when they were in the bed with me. I moved them out at the age of 1 and put them in their toddler bed which would still be in my bedroom. Then move them to their room at 3. Do what’s best for you and your family everyone is different some people sleep hard and some sleep light.
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I just can’t get over how adorable Sharkie is! We love using our Arms Reach. Safety was def impt to us – one night DH jumped in his sleep and whacked Nia. She cried pretty hard and it scared me so bad =(
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That Rohan is sooooo cute and I know he smells delicious! Uhh yes I’m guilty of co-sleeping… and I REFUSE to disclose to what age I allowed Maddy to sleep with me.. she’s five now
Her dad and I aren’t together anymore but he didn’t have a problem with it at all…
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bed sharing was absolutely the best for both of my boys. since i was breastfeeding, it gave us both easy access, allowed us both to pretty much sleep through overnight nursing, and both boys slept for much longer stretches than when i left them to sleep alone. their dad was really on board with it, too, though. will john be more comfortable with it if, instead of having rohan between the 2 of you, you side-car his crib next to your side of the bed? that way he’s not totally in bed with you, but he’s super close and attached to you, still.
there’s a lot of misinformation about bed sharing, and you’re right; if you’re intoxicated or highly medicated, you should never sleep with your baby. if you’re interested, dr. sears has a good article on his website laying out the safety of co-sleeping/bed sharing.
and as for how long we did it…well, let me preface it by saying that i was in no hurry to “help” my kids make the transition into their own beds–especially after my husband and i separated and it was really hard on the kids. my older son started off the night in his own bed at 3, and by 4 was spending the entire night on his own. my younger son started off the night in his own bed around 2.5, and now that he’s going to be 4 in a couple of days…he still wakes up once and gets into bed with me. but it works for us.
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Hi My name is Sissy, and I am a co-sleeper. My little one is 6 months and hispediatrician expresses great concern, but hubs and I are both light sleepers. I call my LO my “cuddle monster”. He most often sleeps in the crook of either arm depending on which boob he last nursed. Like Kita, my hubs likes that the LO sleeps sounder and that he doesn’t have to get up for feedings or to go check on him. I will admit we have had to get more strategic regarding intimacy. That can be frustrating but partly its kinda nostalgic of those old days, creates a little “chase”, adds a little spice (blushing), and puts an empahsis on the quality rather than quantity of time together.
well, i will start with whatever floats YOUR boat. and hubby’s boat too of course LOL. Umh, i never co-slept with either of my boys. Their bassinet was right next to the bed in the beginning, and at a few months they went to their crib, maybe 6 months at the latest. This worked best for us, because I didn’t want to be trying to get him to sleep in his own bed at an older age like I watched a good friend do. I felt as a married couple we needed to have our bed to ourselves. Plus, my hubby needs his umh, “loving” quite often, so that just never would have worked for us. I have seen so many women neglect that hubby’s needs for the lil one, and i’m guilty as well in other areas if you were to ask my hubby, so this is one area where i made sure my hubby knew i was considering him and that he had a say in. I just never wanted to be dealing with seperation issues at an older age, so i felt it was important to start them in their own bed. something else that i think is hilarious, is that every man i know, that is a father of a son, whose mother nurses him, cannot WAIT until nursing is over, and they act a lil envious and i think this is hilarious! my hubby was constantly complaining about nursing, and so glad when it was over. me on the other hand, i loved it and sometimes even now that they are 4 and 7 miss it. it is such a special thing, so enjoy it lots, but don’t be surpsed if hubby complains or voices that he cannot wait until that stage is over,lol!
I do the morning routine you mentioned… nurser in bed and let him crash there while i shower and get ready for work.
Otherwise, he’s in his own room. I don’t think you have anything to worry about unless he stops liking his own bed or pack-in-play. I’m with you… I love the coziness.
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If your husband isn’t comfortable with it you need to have some respect for that. You could take a nap with your baby during the day so you get the closeness that you want.
I also like the idea of the portable bed next to yours. You get to have your baby close and you have a happy husband. You could also bring the baby into the bed after he gets up and leaves in the morning.
Now, this situation doesn’t happen all that often. But, my friend and her brother co-slept with their parents. She left the bed when she was still a child. Her brother still co-sleeps, he’s 28. :/
The statistics about co-sleeping is messed up. If your not a drinker or druggie, then there is really no risk. I still co-sleep with Zee, even though I should be helping her move to her own bed now–that will happen very soon.
I say do what works for your family. You have already found a benefit for sleeping with Sharkie; you can sleep longer and so can he.
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I am sure those statitistics are skewed. If the incidents were so prevalent, we would all know someone that it has affected. I don’t see it as a problem as long as we remain aware while we sleep and are not wild sleepers. I wouldn’t sleep with pillows when I co-slept. I co-slept with my first up until she started pre-school. The last two, I co-slept with for the first 3 months.
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I would only worry about him not learning to sleep in his own bed..but I don’t have any experience. I have friends and family who co slept and it was difficult to transition but honestly you have to do what’s best for you and your family!
When my baby was born my plan was to keep her in a bassinet next to our bed, but sweet Abby had other plans. She HATED her bassinet and only slept soundly if she was in bed between mommy and daddy, so we inadvertently became cosleepers and have been for the past 6 months. We are in the process of transitioning her to her crib for my sanity but I have sincerely loved the cuddle time and easy night time breastfeeding that cosleeping has provided!
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We have used the Snuggle Nest since Lil Turtlebug was discharged from the NICU! I feel the same way, I want him close…especially since his first three months he slept in the hospital without me!!!!! Its really great, does not take up a lot of room and he love it so much that when he does sleep in his Babyhome bassinet, I have to put the Snuggle Nest inside. When he wake up at like 5am, I do take him out of the cosleeper and hold him close (I get another two hours)! Good luck & Rohan is gorgeous!
I never co-slept with my daughter unless she wasn’t feeling very well. From the beginning she has been a pretty wild sleeper. When she’s in bed with me I get NO SLEEP so she’s been in her own bed the entire time. She’s 2 now and sleeps like a champ. I’m glad I didn’t co-sleep, I’d have permanent black bags under my eyes if i did lol.
We co-sleep and it wasn’t something that we completely discussed. We did initially try to put him in his pack n play, but we were not getting sleep. Eventually he would sleep longer when we were next to him. We did discuss wanting to transition him to sleeping alone around 6 months, but it started earlier. We started putting him down for naps alone around 4 months and eventually at bedtime. He’s been sleeping alone for about 7-10 hrs it varies each night and usually I will put him the bed with us around 4 or 5 when he wakes up again. If he wakes up earlier I put him back in his pack n play alone. It’s been working for us and I usually let him cuddle w/ me during one of his naps, so I can nap as well.
I think showing your DH some research on the benefits of co-sleeping might help. It was natural for us, but I did do research on safe co-sleeping and explain it to my DH.
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