My lil man’s baby shower was this Saturday (I’ll post on that when I get some pics to show ya) and at the party I was told “Be prepared to say bye to Dani. You’re going to lose your identity once he gets here and you’ll just be Mommy.”

This person went on to tell me how I’ll go X amount of time without a shower, walk around in vomitty clothes, never get a chance to eat or sleep, not take care of myself (brush teeth, comb hair), etc…etc…

I know she wasn’t being a “hater” or coming from a negative place because this is what she went through when her kids were born.  I do feel she was sincerely trying to just let me know what (she feels) I’m in for.

However….

I don’t think that’s going to be me.  I really don’t.

Am I naive?

I know it’s going to be HARD work after bringing baby home from the hospital, I know I’ll be sleepless in seattle for a while and have a lot to adjust to.  After the first couple months I’m sure I’ll have my act together for the most part and be able to do my mommy duties, my home duties, my biz duties and still be Dani.  I don’t think there would be a time where I wouldn’t just change my T-shirt if it was barfed on or yank my hair up into a bun if I was looking raggedy.

Am I being realistic?

Did you “lose yourself” to motherhood?