Preggo Pressure

February 24, 2011 by 8 Comments

http://www.howisavemoney.net/daily-links/kids-people-stop-harassing/

This mini vent post really got me thinking about how the people I interact with deal with my childlessness. I kinda feel bad for her. It seems like children never came up (except with my Gram) until after John and I got engaged.

Mom – she says wait as long as possible. Seriously she wants me to wait till I’m 50. But in the next breath she’ll mention how she wants her grandkids to call her Nona instead of grandma lol

Dad – says he doesn’t care when they come, just don’t bring them around him (yeah right!)

Gram – is my only family member asking me when I will be getting knocked up (but she wouldn’t dare say it in that language hahaha)

Friends – are well aware of my obsession and TTC countdown and generally know better than to say anything about it

Coworkers/Acquaintances/Strangers – the girls in my office (prying ass heffas) are asking about it and I just hold them off with: “oh it’s not time yet…Not for us.” Acquaintances and people I have recently met get the same story…unless the person asking is pregnant…then I attack them with a barrage of questions.

I’m really happy that the people in my life aren’t pressuring me to pop a bun in the oven. It would stress me out, and in turn I would stress John out even more than I currently am.

Did the people in your life pressure you, or are they pressuring you? How did you handle it?

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Spacing Your Children (?)

February 22, 2011 by 7 Comments

http://couplemoney.com/baby-expenses/how-spaced-should-you-have-your-kids/
This article really had me thinking about the financial aspect of spacing out our 2-3 children strategically. I am hoping to have ours 2 years apart. I feel like I read somewhere that it’s good for you to do so health-wise. (but I totally could just be making that up)
The good thing about it is they will be close in age and hopefully the best of friends. I will have some time to get back to “fighting” shape between pregnancies too. Plus the hand-me-down situation will be great haha. But a bad consequence for us will be the increased financial burden. I will have at least 2 kids in lessons, camps, and colleges at the same time. Yikes! That’s a big hit.

I notice a lot of people (on blogs forums and IRL) not wanting more than one child in diapers at a time, or not wanting to have to use a double stroller which at first had me contemplating my 2 years apart strategy. But then I figured my age and health is the major concern for the health of the babies, which is more important than any inconvenience of double diaper duty.
I know it’s easier said than done but I hope my 2 year plan works out.
Did you strategically space your children or do you plan to in the future? What’s your ideal spacing and what is your actual spacing?

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Movie Roundup

February 18, 2011 by 4 Comments

OK So I watched a buncha movies I’ve been meaning to see.  Have you seen any of these? I need your thoughts!


 The Town

The Town

Well, to be honest, this is NOT a movie I was meaning to see but I’m really glad I did!  The only negative thing about this movie was Serena Vanderwoodson with her terrible attempt at a bahstin accent and pulling weird faces all the time.  IT was super cute (i know that’s not a good way to describe a movie about rough n tough bank robbers..but still…it was a love story like every other movie in the world) and well acted except for Gossip Girl, and had some really funny moments as well as crazy suspense.  I’m never happy with movie endings unless the whole world is happy sparkle rainbow sunsprite…but … i still dug it.

Best Part of this movie: The cop turning his head around. (u know what part I mean?!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6sa37QI1Dls

Black Swan


Black Swan

Black Swan was a drive through let down city.  The performances were GREAT all around, I must say it was superbly acted by every player.  The movie itself was like one massive cliche and felt like it was trying too hard to be….i don’t know what…artsy? different? shocking?  I didn’t like the gross factor with the nails, the scratching, ew.  (i have issues with fingernails in general so that’s just my weirdo bias…)  It kinda just got annoying and I almost didn’t want to finish watching it all the way through.  BUT – I think I would have judged the movie less harshly if I hadn’t heard how “amazing” it was from everydaggonebody. 

Best Part of the movie: when it finally ended…or Vincent Cassel.  It’s a toss up.

True Grit
True Grit

True Grit was the bomb diggedy (yes i said it!)  It was “cute” and “comfortable” in the way you know a contemporary western will be.  Jeff Bridges was STELLAR.  He made that character real and memorable and you forgot it was Jeff Bridges.  The little girl who’s name I don’t feel like looking up right now was excellent too!  She really held her own.  Matt Damon, was Matt Damon.  His Matt Damon-ness overshadowed who his character was supposed to be….but that said…he was still a great character, cuz IMO Matt Damon on a bad day and phoning in his performances (a la denzel) is still awesome and charismatic and memorable..and funny.  The story line was typical, but threw in some laughs, “aww moments” and suspense to make you feel something.  It was great and I’d watch it again. (much like the 75000 times i’ve watched Tombstone)

Waiting for “Superman”
Waiting for "Superman"

Waiting for Superman made me hate America.  Most documentaries make me hate somebody now that I think about it.  It’s shameful.  But this one hit me hard cuz my soft spot is a little brown boy in America. 

OK I realize what I just typed sounded pedophile-ish but I don’t mean it grossly.  I just mean that I feel deeply for/about the “plight” of our black n brown babies.  It’s not a good look for the majority of the minority rightabout now. (or ever really…)

This doc was about the truly messed up education system in America and how it’s failing our children.  It was really sad to see these beautiful kids with so much potential being victimized by the system that’s supposed to help prepare them for adult-hood.  I get that some teachers have a tough time with some students, but I mean, you’re getting paid to teach…so teach.  I’m not allowed to fail at my job, and I just push papers around.  Why are you allowed to fail (and still collect your checks) when your job is educating a generation of people? Spooky.

Related sidebar: I really wish I could restructure pay scales so teachers/professors/nurses/doctors/child-care workers/firefighters got paid crazy money, and actors/atheletes got paid $40K or something.  It’s really silly.

Best part of the documentary: Anthony’s smile and use of the word bittersweet.

Inception
Inception

Inception man. I loved it!! LOVED. IT.  It was twisty, and supremely acted, it was comfortable, and…well…who doesn’t love looking at Leo.  The story was great and I feel like I don’t even want to talk about it I just want everyone to see it.  I expected it to be more confusing though…and again that’s from listening to people saying how “deep” (insert eye roll here) and “complex” (gag!) it was.  What also struck me about this movie was how pretty it was.  They did a great job with all the effects and shots.  It was excellent to watch and see.  If that makes sense.

Best (and worst) part of this movie:  Cillian Murphy’s face.  So unsettlingly sexy.  Shudder.

Did you see any of these flicks? What did you think of em?

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Goodbye to My Husband

February 16, 2011 by 7 Comments

Now you know I’m not talking about John.

I’m talking about one of my many other husbands, Eric Taylor.

Not Kyle Chandler, the talented actor that’s been playing him for 5 seasons… but…the actual character…Eric Taylor.

hey boo

This character is so well written and so well acted, that you cannot help but fall in love with him.  He’s the manliest yet sweetest character, moral, upstanding, generous, kind, family man character ever.

Now…If you have no idea what  I’m talking about…well A) shame on you, and B) Friday Night Lights!!!

One of my most favorite shows ever has ended and I have to say goodbye to my husband…. and the rest of the supremely talented cast.

RIP

I think I have cried or at least gotten severely misty eyed at every single episode of this show.  I
I really wish I knew people who watched it so they could be sad and mad with me. ::sigh::  I think it’s just me and the state of Texas who were tuning in.

You can catch it on Netflix tho!!


Have you ever seen it?  For the 0 to 1 other person watching the show, were you in love with Eric Taylor too or am I just a weirdo?

Oh, and PS: 
Am I the only one who remembers Kyle Chandler from that old show Early Edition?

He would magically get the newspaper a day early and stop bad ish from going down… and he had that creepy cat, and his blind bestie lady?

Oh and PS2 – he’s gotten hotter with age…dontcha think?

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A New Chapter

February 14, 2011 by 4 Comments

I’m really excited and feel like I’m starting a new chapter in my life. 

I know it’s weird to say this but I’m really grateful for BabyH for really being my catalyst.  I wouldn’t have been as determined to move forward and create a position where I’d be able to work at home/independently if I had no BabyH on the horizon.

Saturday began my training to become a certified Coach.  At the end of it I’ll have a certificate from NYU and an ACC level standing with ICF (the closest thing that the coaching industry has to a governing body) along with the education/tools to begin a kickass practice!

I feel like what I have done up until now has prepared me for what I was really put here to do (besides mommyhood) which is help, inspire and motivate people be their best selves.  It’s incredible.

Had I not acted, I wouldn’t have developed the skills to just go up and talk in front of a group of howevermany people without shaking.  (well, maybe, I’ve kinda always been a ham…but still).

Had I not done photography I would not have learned to see beauty in new ways, to put complete strangers at ease, and direct different people in ways that work best for their brains.

And most importantly, had I not been an assistant I would not know how to put up with people’s bullshit with a smile :)

I’m really grateful for what I’ve done and excited to take this big step into what feels so natural for me.  I won’t even neggie myself and say “damn Dan, why didn’t you do this sooner?!” because I realize I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing at exactly the right time.

:)

Oh yeah, Happy V-day!!

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