Confession: I’m in an abusive relationship

With my hair.

It started last Saturday, September 11th.  I washed and conditioned my hair and wore it in a wash n go styled with cantu and mixed chicks leave in.

On Sunday I plopped it up in a loose bun.  (i didn’t remoisturize)

On Monday I dampened it and pulled it into a bun for interviews.

On Tuesday I dampened it, and BRUSHED IT WHILE WET and pulled it into a bun again.

Wednesday, same as tuesday.

Thursday, same as wednesday.

Friday….same as thursday.

It’s so shameful how I abused my hair this week.

Tonight I am going to prepoo with coconut oil (which is not a usual part of my reggie, but needs to be done after this abuse) and tomorrow I will wash and DC my poor strands. 

They need some TLC in the worst way.

I am Already Married

Or at least I feel like it. 

I wonder what will change after the ceremony.

John and I already seem “married couple”ish to me.  We love each other to bits and are best friends.  We have been living together happily since the beginning of last year and have gotten into comfortable household roles.  We share responsibilities and bills, we make decisions together and it’s all so natural.  We balance each other in the best of ways and we have a shared view of what’s to come next for our lives together.

When we talk to married couples, they tell John and I that things will change, but they can never really articulate what exactly will happen.  They just say “Oh, just you wait.”  and “You’ll See!” and giggle to their partner.  I really don’t understand and I’m hoping some of my married bloggy friends and readers can help me out here.

I can’t imagine anything really changing once we get back from our mini-moon in Vegas except that we’ll be legally married and John will be wearing a ring.  We’ll have new titles, Husband and Wife….but…our day to day lives will remain the same…won’t they? 

Maybe it’s an internal change? Is that what our married buddies mean?  Is there a spiritual, emotional bonding that comes with the ceremony?  I mean, I know I’m going to feel super close to John and be a blubbering crying mess as we say our vows to devote our lives to each other in front of our families, so maybe that shared experience will create a new bond and have us feeling closer than ever?  Will I somehow love him more, and he me? 

We’ve discussed this and both kinda feel the same and are anxious to see if we do have any changes after we’re officially husband and wife.  I feel like I’m already married, but maybe after April 17th I’ll have a mega wake up call and realize how silly I was to underestimate my wedding ceremony.

For those of you who lived together and shared lives before marriage, what changed for you?